How to Write the Perfect Maid of Honor Speech in 5 Simple Steps

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Ashley and Diane during Ashley’s wedding day

How to write a maid of honor speech can be tricky and stressful. A lot of effort and thought goes into writing the perfect maid of honor speech. Today I’m excited to share with you how to write the perfect maid of honor speech and reflected on my experience as the maid of honor. Plus I’m sharing a few tips and tricks about how to deliver the perfect maid of honor speech. On August 26th, my best friend, Ashley got married in Chicago. A year prior she asked me to be her maid of honor. I was so excited to stand by my best friend on her big day!

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Diane Delivering the Maid of Honor Speech
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After the maid of honor speech

As a maid of honor I had no idea all the tasks that were required of me. Unfortunately, due to the fact I live in Paris I was unable to perform some of them. HOWEVER, one very important task that was required was giving the maid of honor speech. After googling what to expect when giving the maid of honor speech or what to include during the wedding speech, I quickly realized everyone gave generic answers.

I’ve outlined this article in 2 parts, the first being what to expect and tips while giving your maid of honor speech and tips on how to write a maid of honor speech

Part 1: Here is what to expect and tips while giving your Maid of Honor Speech

  1. Unless you’re a professional speaker, you will be nervous, regardless the amount of times you’ve practiced. I like to pride myself on being an outgoing person, but even I was nervous.
  2. Don’t drink too much, for the number of obvious reasons, but one you probably didn’t think about is, if you drink too much you won’t be able to read your speech
  3. Print off your speech. The reason for this is to avoid your phone timing out and you having to awkwardly unlock your phone. (Just make sure you don’t lose your paper speech)

Part 2: Now that you know what to expect, here are a few tips on how to write your maid of honor speech. The key to a successful speech is to keep it short and lighthearted. Key word: Short.

  1. Start with your friendship history. Here I added in my favorite childhood memories, and a funny story
  2. Talk about the first time the bride meet her significant other. What were her thoughts are there any personal stories you remember her telling you. Was it love at first site?
  3. Next talk about the first time you met her significant other. What were your thoughts? Any stories about they way they looked at each other?
  4. Finally discuss how you know they are perfect for each other.
  5. Lastly toast them a happy and successful future.

That’s it, short and simple! This is the key to writing a successful maid of honor speech. I would recommend that you keep your speech to about 3 minutes. This leaves you room to improvise as you go. Remember not to read your speech word for word, but more as if your talking to friends about the people you care about. Best of all good luck, and remember this is about your best friend on her special day!

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Photos by Laura Fisher

Sincerely Petite in Paris,



  1. October 19, 2017 / 4:11 pm

    You gave the best MOH speech ever!!!! It was so special! Thank you for everything!

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  2. October 19, 2017 / 11:28 pm

    Beautiful photos Diane – you can see how special the day was and your speech. Great tips and I can imagine how wonderful your speech would have been xxx

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